The first year of loss is a special year. I once went to a yoga and grief workshop. The yoga instructor (also a grief counselor) said that there is a reason why they don’t recommend you make big, important decisions for that first year after you have suffered a great loss, be it from a death, divorce, etc., because there are measurable changes in how your brain works.
So, in the Year of Firsts…
- Thanksgiving, check
- Christmas, check
Lot’s of daily things to get through, but I guess the next big holiday will be Mother’s Day…
Your Year of Firsts: http://www.freitagfuneralhome.com/publications/first-year-grief.htm
Down the Rabbit Hole and Back 
Yes, I have heard one should not make any decisions for quite some time after they lose someone they love. When my brother died and the man was collecting info from me for his death certificate – He told me, they do not use death certificates as legal documents to prove anything. Why – because they figure the person is so upset from the loss, they give the wrong information. I thought that was interesting. I cannot tell you how long it takes to get over the death of your Mother, after 13 years, my Mother’s death still brings tears to my eyes and I miss her every day. Hugs and love to you and I hope the ache in your heart gets better someday.
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Lizzie, that makes sense about the death certificate. I told the person filling out Mom’s certificate some info so she could calculate how long Mom had been in the US, and she did the math wrong. Embarrassing, since I teach math and I couldn’t double check a simple computation 😮
My first experience with loss was my heart dog of 13 1/2 years. A friend told me that I will never be the same again, and she was right. So, again, I know this will change me forever…
I have been wanting to work through this, but no time, and probably best to wait until after Dad… http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Grief-Finding-Darkness/dp/1938289099
Hugs for all your support!
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Checked the website out you enclosed. Guess Grief is at the top of the list of things that are the hardest to deal with. May 2016 be a better year for you and your family. Love to you.
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Let’s hope for a better 2016 for the both of us! With Dad here, I suspect some rough patches ahead, but I think no year can be as bad as the last one was.
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Bless you Mona, I wish a much better year for you. I have decided after 3 1/2 years of trama, I am going to give myself a better year, by trying to be happier. I do hope things with you Dad calm down.
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We are both going to have a better year!
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